Being isn’t as real as doing

Ralph Waldo Emerson said personal energy “resides in the moment of transition from the past to a new state.” It resides in the creative process. The finished product, he said, is dead in its completion. But the process of creating? That’s ripe with growth and opportunity.

There’s a word for something done solely for the end result: chore. This theme has come up again and again in recent books I’ve read, and I want to share two of my favorite takeaways.

How to Reduce Intrinsic Interest
There’s a classic psychology experiment involving children who liked to draw. They were given pens and paper and split into two groups. The children in the first group were given a reward for their drawings, which they were told about beforehand. The children in the second group received no rewards nor mention of them. After a few weeks, the children in the first group (those rewarded for their drawings) were less interested in drawing than those in the second group. The first group’s drawings were also judged to be of lower quality. The second group not only produced better work, but showed continued enjoyment in the activity. “The hypothesis,” says Matthew B. Crawford, “is that the child begins to attribute his interest, which previously needed no justification, to the external reward, and this has the effect of reducing his intrinsic interest in it.”

Being Isn’t as Real as Doing
In How to Write One Song, Jeff Tweedy says the question is not, Who do I want to be? It’s, What do I want to do? “Do you want to be a “star”? Don’t bother. You’re going to lose,” he says. “Even if you make it, you’ll lose. Because you’re never going to be exactly what you’re picturing.” Let’s say you want to be a rockstar. If by rockstar you mean you want to play music in front of people, you can do that. You can probably gradually play to larger groups of people too. You can experiment with new musical forms. You can dye your hair and create your own persona. Basically, you can do nearly everything “rockstars” do. Rockstar is a title. It’s not real. Doing something is real. Creating is real. You can be someone or you can do something.

Just That You Do the Right Thing
Stoicism is built around doing. Its goal is not to make you sound smart or help you debate abstract theories. It aims to solve problems in the real world. It doesn’t matter that you know Seneca’s letters by heart if you’re still worried about things you don’t control. 

Epictetus said don’t talk about your philosophy, embody it. “If your choices are beautiful, so too will you be.” And anything that is beautiful, said Marcus Aurelius, is beautiful by itself; beauty needs no title or recognition. “Does an emerald lose its quality if it is not praised?”

Doing the right thing—that’s what matters. That someone notices? Not your concern. That you’re given a reward because of it? Yawn. “Just that you do the right thing,” Marcus said, “the rest doesn’t matter. Cold or warm. Tired or well-rested. Despised or honored. Dying…or busy with other assignments. . . . There as well: ‘To do what needs doing’.”

(If you want to learn more about Stoic philosophy, these are the best books to start with: The Daily Stoic, Meditations, Letters From a Stoic, Discourses, Enchiridion, On the Shortness of Life.)

Books Read This Month

I needed a distraction this month, and John Grisham’s The Reckoning did the trick. Jake Brown’s Rick Rubin: In the Studio was a fascinating look at the why behind Rubin’s creative decisions, and how these decisions created and revolutionized multiple music genres. (I’m eager to read his new book The Creative Act: A Way of Being.) I’m also slowly making my way through Gary Provost’s 100 Ways to Improve Your Writing, which is short but rich. And I’ve just started reading The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker which I’m really enjoying so far. He uses real-life crime stories (which read like thrillers) to explain the psychology of human violence, and how to recognize the warning signs that can keep you safe.

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